The Gift of Presence – By Christine Callahan-Oke

I’m going to be honest – I’m not feeling very chatty. Instead, I’m feeling introspective.  Similar to Cassidy Gard in her insightful post Overspiritualizing?, I feel like I’m in the midst of a transition and need to process my thoughts quietly rather than share them.

Do you have moments where there’s so much spinning around in your head that you have no idea what to say? That’s where I’m at.

But at the same time as I look within, I’ve also been taking in some precious, irreplaceable moments happening around me.

Our littlest guy, almost three years old, was acting out at supper the other night, so we figured he was really tired.  He and my husband Chris had the following conversation.

Chris: B, did you nap at daycare today?
B: Yes.
Chris: Did you sleep?
B: Yes, I slept with my eyes open.

I couldn’t help but laugh.

And this week our seven-year-old was in science camp.  It was his first time, and he loved it. On Monday night he said to me with great enthusiasm, “Mom, I think this was the best day of my whole life!”  – a high accolade from a kid who would typically shrug and give an ultra-casual, “yeah, it was pretty good.”  It was wonderful to see and feel his excitement.  It was contagious.

No matter what we’re trying to work through or figure out, I think it helps ground us if we get out of our own heads a bit to look around and notice the important everyday stuff that we could so easily miss.  That’s an amazing gift my boys have given me: the gift of presence.  They find wonder in the simplest of things and bring me right back to the moment. I love that.

And as Jennifer Laurent reflects on in her post The Lesson of Summer, I want to “embrace these once in a lifetime moments parenting has to offer.”

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to get back to my reverie.

I wish you of day filled with beautiful everyday moments.