Positive Thinking

Positive Thinking

The Push Toward Thinking Positive

Positive thinking is a term we hear a great deal about these days. Like most things in our society, it seems that we tend to follow trends. Ideas catch on and next thing you know everyone is doing it. We are constantly being encouraged to rid ourselves of negativity and to focus on the positive. It seems that positive thinking is sort of the “in” thing and as many might joke, “negativity is so 10 years ago!” As I joke about this, I do want to say that if there is going to be a trend and social influence, I am grateful that it is one that encourages positivity as opposed to the other way around.

As I tap into this push toward positivity though, I can’t help my desire to understand it more fully and determine its depth and the possible repercussions of it. A few months back I posted an article titled “Let Negativity Exist.” I spoke of the importance of allowing our negative feelings to be acknowledged and fully appreciated in order for them to transform into positives. Simply pushing away negativity and attempting to deny it robs us of learning the necessary lessons negative feelings can teach us.

As I sit here now I think about other ways in which negativity needs to be allowed to exist. I have watched and been on the receiving side of people distancing themselves from those going through negative times and existing in a negative space. I hear statements about only wanting to be around positive thinking people and not wanting to be involved in other people’s drama. On one level I can understand this, but in all honesty, these statements hurt my heart. It is in times of pain and when one exists in a “negative” space that our fellow humans need us most. These are the moments when true friendship, love, and relationship are called to action.

Are we making a mistake in positive thinking?

If we cannot find comfort in allowing our own negativity to exist within us, we will then be unable to find comfort in allowing negativity to exist within others. Negativity exists to teach us lessons and help us to grow, as long as we let it. We do not need to be afraid that simply allowing for negative feelings within those and ourselves we are in relationship with will somehow bring us down. On the contrary, allowing for this negativity is the true path to positive thinking, a deeper love of self, and more intimate relationships with those we love. Allowing for negativity is where true positive thinking and feeling lies.


  1. Thomas Ross April 7, 2013 Reply


    This is so, so important. To open ourselves to the negative feelings- and to embrace those around us in whatever frame of mind they possess- are essential. Those feelings, and those unhappy souls, can be our great teachers.

    You remain a beacon to so many of us. I know that whatever you say, whatever message you bring, it is truly from your heart.

    Thank you.


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      Jennifer April 7, 2013 Reply

      Thank you Tom… even still I find myself attempt to push those feelings away. And then I remember to welcome them. To greet them with love and allow them to be. And then soon enough, they don’t seem so bad anymore!

  2. Tiffany Hendra April 3, 2013 Reply

    SUCH TRUTH! As funny as it sounds, last year I finally embraced negativity, fear and my ego as my friends instead of enemies. We have MUCH to learn from them! Love this post!

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      Jennifer April 7, 2013 Reply

      Ain’t that the truth… using love is always the answer!!!

  3. ElizaSwords September 8, 2012 Reply

    Hi Jennifer! Been a while, this is so true. I find that the more I push away negative emotions or thoughts, the bigger they become. Of course we have to deal with real concerns that need some attention, but when it comes to unnecessary worry, It’s almost like I inflate them by giving them attention. Whether the attention is good or bad doesn’t matter. A Buddhist once said to sit with eyes closed and imagine them floating away on a cloud. It always helps me let go! Thank you for inspiring!! 🙂

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