Holding Space

Holding Space

In a recent post titled How Do We Love the Thorn, I wrote about the questions I had around getting close to others that you know can cause you pain. I wondered about finding ways to open your heart to thorns, even though you were seeing them for exactly what they are. I received some beautiful feedback from some of my readers and have continued to think upon the idea.

As I continue to allow my heart to expand, I have been able to discharge negative emotions of the past. I am finding myself in a brand new place of being and understanding, seeing myself and others in somewhat of a different light. Over the past couple weeks, as I have reflected on some of my past actions and reactions, I have realized just how much of these stemmed from a space of fear. At the time, I was unaware of this fear and therefore was unable to see the way in which I was closing myself off, unwilling to allow for vulnerability and openness.

Perhaps the thorns are actual thorns, and perhaps the thorns are simply created by me. What I understand now though, is that these are details that truly do not matter. See, thorns are there as a gift for us to gain wisdom and an opportunity for us to further expand our hearts. As a thorn is presented in ones reality, we have the chance to hold space for our self and the other person through love and compassion. Greeting the thorn in this way, whether real or created, creates space for both beings to heal and discover new ways of existing.

As I am faced with the challenge of opening my heart to the possibility of bleeding, I realize that I can only bleed through struggle, conflict, and resistance. I can see clearly that these perceived thorns, real or not, are simply begging to be met with love and compassion. It is through this opening and my willingness to allow, that transition can occur, wisdom can be gained, and beings can be transformed. I move forward on my journey holding space for what I used to fear, transforming my reality and having faith in where it is to take me.